Soy Didn’t Make Me “SSA”
I don’t really use the term SSA (same-sex attraction) much. I don’t criticize the majority of people who do. Elder Oaks even counseled for people to avoid using labels to define people and their existence and I agree with him. So why is the name of this blog “Soy Made Me Gay?” Because I don’t like how some people are using the term “SSA”.
From some straight and gay mormons alike, SSA has turned into a label of its own which means “gay but not gay like that”. I’ve seen people use it to distinguish their gay loved ones from the gay people they see on television (which is pretty much the only place that they see gay people). By so doing, they are able to love their “same-sex attracted” brother or son or daughter or sister and keep hating “gay” people. It’s this usage of “SSA” that offends me.
I am a homosexual. I’m not a warm fuzzy “SSA” gay (that is only “kind of” gay, but not gay “like that”). The one difference between my sexuality and that of, say, Neil Patrick Harris: my testimony. Honestly, if there were an OD-3 saying gay was “a-okay”, I’d be the first one out in my ward.
If you hate “gay” people, then you hate me too.
Homosexuality doesn’t feel any more wrong to gay people than heterosexuality to straight people. It actually feels normal. That’s one of the reasons gay people in general feel the conflict that they do. They can’t seem to understand how everyone can hate them for what comes normally to them. That is why I don’t blame people who don’t have the gospel for following that feeling. I hear “love the sinner, hate the sin” a lot, but I find it pretty cavalier of people to use that phrase when they don’t seem to be “loving the sinner” that much. I believe homosexual acts are a sin. I believe that eternal happiness comes (in part) from ridding yourself of practices that the Lord has deemed unworthy of His Kingdom. I believe this because I have a testimony of the scriptures and the prophets and that is what they teach and I truly believe it, but to be honest, feeling sexual attraction to guys feels normal to me. That’s just the nature of sexuality.
Sure I’m mormon, but I’m also SSA, a fag, a queer, a homo, and last but not least: gay like that.
I’m not turning into the militant gay of the mohosphere. The next post will be less ranty, yo prometo.